Julia Gracen

Truth and reconciliation

Incest accusations of the recovered-memory craze tore families apart. Now one of its leaders wants to let bygones be bygones.

“For ten years of my life, the fact that I had been sexually abused was the principle around which I organized my existence,” writes Laura Davis, coauthor of the phenomenally popular and influential “bible” for abuse survivors, “The Courage to Heal,” in her surprising new book, “I Thought We’d Never Speak Again: The Road From Estrangement to Reconciliation.”

In her 20s, after a tumultuous adolescence, Davis began to remember her grandfather molesting her when she was a child. But when she told her mother about the abuse, her mother refused to believe it, and their previous “rocky” relationship became “a shambles.” For a decade Davis was completely alienated from her mother’s side of the family. “My rule was simple: if you believed me, you were in; if you didn’t, you were out.”

In an e-mail interview, Davis told me that she had to separate herself from her mother because people can’t recover from their experiences of sexual abuse in childhood “when the reality of their experience is constantly being minimized or challenged … I couldn’t afford any kind of reconciliation with my mother until I knew my own truth and had done enough healing to keep my own equilibrium when I was with her. Once I accomplished that, and only then, could I consider the possibility of reconciliation.”

Davis’ experience in finding her way back to her family — even though her mother still will not believe the accusations against Davis’ grandfather — formed the genesis of “I Thought We’d Never Speak Again.” The book encompasses a wide range of injuries and estrangements, and it details many reconciliation strategies, including one that brought together Israeli and Palestinian teenagers. Yet Davis’ prominent role in the notorious fin-de-siècle growth of “recovered memories” of childhood sexual abuse will inevitably draw attention to the parts of “I Thought We’d Never Speak Again” that deal with family reconciliations after accusations of abuse.

Recovered-memory therapy and books that uncritically supported it were all the rage in the late ’80s and early ’90s. In the space of a few years, thousands upon thousands of people — the vast majority of them women — somehow came to believe that their parents hadn’t just failed them in the usual ways, but were in reality incestuous monsters who had covered up a lifetime of unspeakable sexual abuses.

“The Courage to Heal,” first published in 1988, was a catalytic phenomenon in the midst of the madness. It was widely recommended on television, in magazines, by friends, by feminist groups, and by psychotherapists when their patients first entered therapy. It sold like hot cakes, and its influence was incalculable.

No one I talked to about Davis’ books denies that incest and the sexual abuse of children are real and serious problems, and most think that they are far more common than many of us would like to believe. Everyone welcomes the support and understanding that books like “The Courage to Heal” (subtitled “A Guide for Women Survivors of Child Sexual Abuse”) can give to people who have genuinely been sexually abused in childhood.

But “The Courage to Heal” also uncritically accepted — some say actively promoted — the idea that “repressed memories” of childhood sexual abuse could be the cause of many ordinary psychological and emotional dysfunctions in adult life. In the process, say critics, Davis was a major contributor to thousands of family breakups, lawsuits and estrangements that never should have happened. Now many of them find Davis’ new book on reconciliation to be a bitterly ironic follow-up to the damage they feel “The Courage to Heal” has done.

Davis concedes that a very small number of people might have a more or less legitimate beef, but she feels that she and Ellen Bass, her coauthor on “The Courage to Heal,” did far more good than harm. “Whenever you make a strong stand in the world, particularly when you deal with issues that have been hidden, you invite a strong reaction,” she told me. “Ellen Bass and I have been compared to God and to the anti-Christ. Hundreds of thousands of people have told us that we have saved their lives, and a few have said that we ruined their lives.”

The theory that adult psychological dysfunction could be caused by the repressed memories of childhood trauma was first promulgated by Sigmund Freud more than a century ago. It assumes that people can somehow store or imprint complete memories of traumatic events somewhere in their brains but entirely separated from normal consciousness. Memories of early abuse can be buried so deep, the theory goes, that people can live their whole lives thinking they had relatively normal childhoods — or even happy ones.

Yet all along they will manifest the “hidden trauma” in physical symptoms or dysfunctional behavior. Later — even decades later — with the help of psychoanalytic techniques like hypnosis, sodium Amytal (“truth serum”) and “guided imagery” — which also dramatically increase suggestibility and encourage fragmentary states of consciousness — people can recall the repressed events with perfect clarity. The overarching idea is that once people have recovered these hidden traumas and exposed them to their conscious minds, their psychological difficulties will be cured.

In the first edition of “The Courage to Heal,” Bass and Davis actively encouraged women to believe they had been abused, even if the women themselves initially had doubts about it. “So far, no one we’ve talked to thought she might have been abused and then later discovered that she hadn’t been,” they wrote. “The progression always goes the other way, from suspicion to confirmation. If you think you were abused and your life shows the symptoms, then you were.”

By the third edition (1994), however, Bass and Davis began to back away from their reassuring certainties. They still tell their readers that “you don’t need the kind of proof that would stand up in a court of law,” but the blanket validation of all recovered memories is gone. In the revision the authors write (changes in italics): “It is rare that someone thinks she was sexually abused and then later discovers she wasn’t. The progression usually goes the other way, from suspicion to confirmation. If you genuinely think you were abused and your life shows the symptoms, there is a strong likelihood that you were.”

Why the changes? “There were ways information in the first edition was misconstrued,” Davis says, “that we couldn’t have possibly anticipated when we wrote the book.” Misconstrued or not, by the mid-’90s it was impossible even for the most militant believer in repressed memories to ignore the spectacular embarrassments in the field. At their worst, those included now discredited reports of a vast, meticulously organized, multigenerational satanic conspiracy, operating worldwide, that committed thousands of undetected atrocities every year — from child rape to human sacrifice and cannibalism.

The fundamental problem was that there is absolutely no way, theoretically or practically, to separate iatrogenic (treatment induced) fantasies from memories that might have genuinely been uncovered in therapy. So the intractable logical problem for supporters of recovered-memory therapy was — and remains — how to recognize and disavow manifestly untrue or impossible “memories” without calling the entire concept of recovered memory into question.

There’s been a lot of tap-dancing and ground shifting in survivor support communities over the last few years as they’ve grappled with this conundrum. The third edition of “The Courage to Heal” included a 60-page section addressing the “backlash” that arose against recovered-memory therapy during the ’90s. The way Bass and Davis addressed the controversy in that section is representative of the survivor community’s response: First, claim that science has proved the existence of repressed memories and that it therefore completely validates the theoretical basis for recovered-memory therapy. Second, drastically minimize the problem of false memories and throw the blame for them onto a marginal portion of the therapeutic community. Third, accuse those who question recovered-memory therapy of wanting to minimize the seriousness of child sexual abuse or, worse, of actively protecting perpetrators.

Science actually says very little in support of the concept of massive repression/pristine recovery. Some forms of repression do seem to exist, depending on how the word is defined, but they don’t fulfill the criteria needed to support recovered-memory therapy. The theoretical mechanisms of repression — like the systematic forgetting of, or a complete dissociation from, a traumatic experience — also ensure that a memory will be distorted or never encoded at all.

When I asked Davis in e-mail whether her modifications to “The Courage to Heal” acknowledged the concept of false memories, she wrote, “Although I support survivors with all my heart, and believe that most people claiming to have been ‘falsely accused’ are perpetrators in hiding, there have been instances in which people have been mistakenly accused (though this is a far smaller number than the proponents of ‘false memory’ claim).” So although to Davis it’s not a large or important problem, “nevertheless, if even one person is falsely accused of anything, it is a terrible tragedy, and I have great sympathy for anyone in that situation. I pray every day for those families to find healing and peace.”

Some defenders of recovered-memory therapy have defended themselves by arguing that questioning the reality of the memories is also psychologically and socially damaging to “cognizant victims,” people who have always remembered the abuse they suffered as children. They believe, for example, that acknowledging that Cardinal Joseph Bernardin was falsely accused by a young man who recovered — and later recanted — “memories” of his supposed molestation will have a negative impact on the claims of legitimate victims of priestly pedophiles today. In a sense that’s true, because the controversy has intensified the doubt regarding delayed disclosures of childhood sexual abuse. But many of those who didn’t have to “recover” memories of their childhood abuse, like those who are speaking up about Catholic priests today, blame the current climate of doubt on the excesses of the recovered-memory movement itself, and not those who question it.

Charlotte Vale Allen, a cognizant survivor of childhood sexual abuse whose 1977 book “Daddy’s Girl” brought the subject of incest out into the open, wrote to an “accusation survivor” group 20 years later about how “infuriating” she found the recovered-memory movement: “The very notion of assisted ‘recovered memories’ drives me wild … After my father’s death, I took it upon myself to reveal our well-kept secret in the hope that it would help others. For a long time it has done just that. However, I despair of the idea that ‘Daddy’s Girl’ might now become the equivalent of that underground ‘cookbook’ on how to make home-made bombs; that it might be used as a manual on how to appear to be a victim … I fear that this profitable trend of ‘recovering memories’ will serve only to silence genuine victims.”

After their discussion, in the third edition of “The Courage to Heal,” of the many reasons why the “backlash” should not be countenanced, Bass and Davis nevertheless knuckle under to it and admit that “mistakes were made.” They proceed to offer advice to women who might be doubting whether their treatment has really uncovered genuine memories, acknowledging that a “few” bad therapists might have caused a “few” patients to develop mistaken memories.

But irresponsible therapy techniques were only part of the reason for the vast eruption of “recovered memories” in that era. The explosion of accusations and family destruction was nurtured during a decade of an immense, almost hysterical popularization of the idea that many common social and emotional problems were caused by repressed histories of childhood sexual abuse. Books like “The Courage to Heal” fed directly into that zeitgeist and actively encouraged people to assume that if they were in psychological distress, repressed childhood sexual abuse was very likely the cause. Therapists convinced that the problem was widespread used hypnosis and considerable powers of suggestion to persuade doubtful patients that abuse was the source of their troubles.

Once patients believe in their repressed memories and have invested socially and emotionally in their absolute truth, they are often encouraged to “drain the abscess” of the experience by a process called abreaction, pioneered by Freud a hundred years ago. It’s a process by which therapists induce patients to “relive” the painstakingly assembled “memories” as if they were actually happening.

Hypnosis can make the experience of “reliving” dredged-up scenes of childhood abuse particularly vivid and horrifying. As Elaine Westerlund wrote in a 1993 article in the journal Women and Therapy, “Movement in therapy will be much greater if the woman is able to sob like a child, to shake with terror and to scream with rage … Physical responses such as vomiting, incontinence or fainting will sometimes occur.” Some patients can even break out in welts, rashes and stigmata.

There’s only one problem: There’s no scientific evidence — or even consistent descriptive evidence — that memory recovery or abreaction actually works. Not only did it become increasingly clear to Freud that many of his patients’ “memories” couldn’t possibly have happened, but his patients also failed to get better following the big cathartic crises he engineered for them.

In fact, some of them got worse, as countless patients did while undergoing similar therapy a century later. It was common for late 20th century recovered-memory therapists to search “deeper” for more and more hidden memories when the “purging” of the first ones didn’t cure their patients. As a result, the recovered memories often expanded into more and more horrible outrages — with predictable effects on patients whose psychological lives were already fragile.

The practice often initiated or accelerated “flashbacks,” so that patients experienced spontaneous, hallucinatory moments of the recovered abuse scenarios in their waking lives. Christian psychologist Paul Simpson, a one-time promoter of recovered-memory therapy and the author of “Second Thoughts: Understanding the False Memory Crisis and How It Could Affect You,” notes that these supposedly “cathartic” experiences can have devastating effects. “As patients experience more traumatic flashbacks, they begin to decompensate — their personality and ability to function deteriorate dramatically. As decompensation increases, they are told that their psychotic breakdown is proof that what they fantasized is real.”

The emotionally excruciating effects of recovered-memory therapy are addressed reassuringly in “The Courage to Heal.” Bass and Davis describe the “emergency phase” of the process that begins when the memories of abuse have been uncovered and accepted as real: “You may find yourself having flashbacks uncontrollably, crying all day long, or unable to go to work. You may dream about your abuser and be afraid to sleep.”

“I just lost it completely,” one woman told Bass and Davis. “I wasn’t eating, I wasn’t sleeping … I was afraid to stay in the house alone. I would go out in the middle of the night and hide somewhere, behind a Dipsy dumpster or something … Physically, I was a mess. I had crabs. I hadn’t bathed in a month. I was afraid of the shower.” Bass and Davis note that for some survivors, the “emergency phase” can last for years, “with only short breaks in intensity.” But, they say, the good news is that “it won’t last forever.”

Yet sometimes it does “last forever,” if the abuse survivor finds that she can’t take the pain of her awful realizations anymore. “Maria Meyers,” a woman who finally came to believe that the “memories” of abuse that she had developed in therapy were false, wrote a response to the death of a fellow patient in a 1994 edition of the False Memory Syndrome Foundation newsletter. Far from having helped her or her friend, recovered-memory therapy turned them both into basket cases.

“Some therapists justify the worsening condition of their patients by telling them, ‘You have to get worse before you can get better,’” Meyers wrote. For her, the “getting worse” part of her therapy “didn’t mean getting a little more confused or a little more depressed. It meant nearly going insane. It meant retrieving memories so horrid and terrifying I couldn’t eat or drink and ended up on IVs … People are losing families, friends, jobs, and their homes. They are filing for bankruptcy after spending months in hospitals … [S]ome people give up … Some people commit suicide.”

As patients continued in recovered-memory therapy without gaining a cure for the problems that had brought them into therapy, the number of perpetrators in their memories also tended to expand. “The more I worked on the abuse,” said one woman quoted in “The Courage to Heal,” “the more I remembered. First I remembered my brother, and then my grandfather. About six months after that I remembered my father. And then about a year later, I remembered my mother. I remembered the ‘easiest’ first and the ‘hardest’ last. Even though it was traumatic for me to realize that everyone in my family abused me, there was something reassuring about it.”

It’s hard for someone outside this kind of therapeutic environment to know what was reassuring about the belief that one’s entire family was a vile pack of incestuous sexual abusers. But patients often find themselves relieved to know that their emotional problems and social difficulties are not really their own fault, says Richard Ofshe, a social psychologist and the coauthor with Ethan Watters of the landmark 1994 book “Making Monsters: False Memories, Psychotherapy, and Sexual Hysteria.” In therapy, Ofshe says, “The hard questions are not about what choices the patient made and what she might do to change her current circumstances, but rather what was done to her.”

The role of victim is seductive, and not just because it explains otherwise inexplicable missteps and failures. In the heady, angry heyday of the recovered-memory movement, it offered the opportunity to “start over” in life with a whole new identity and system of relationships.

The “chosen” family of the abuse-survivor community, unlike your original family, would never question or doubt you, and would always be accepting and supportive. You wouldn’t be told to “straighten up and fly right,” and you wouldn’t be expected to put up with any people or behavior you found too distressing or challenging. No one would know of your failures in life unless you chose to tell them — in your own way and from your own point of view. Your pain would be celebrated, your social and emotional dysfunctions forgiven as symptomatology beyond your control. There would be a sense of living through a period of high and necessary drama, and of bravely facing and dealing with something truly important. Best of all, you would not need to feel guilty for breaking away from a family that remembered your whole dismal history and had never given you what you felt you needed. A routinely bad childhood may not be enough to justify a clean and complete break, but an incestuously abusive one is.

Abuse survivors, perhaps understandably, tend to idealize the importance of family and overestimate the amount of unconditional love and affirmation people have a right to expect from each other. Many survivors’ “pre-discovery” stories betray a disquieting undercurrent of disappointment with their families’ emotional support and responsiveness, and the abuse diagnosis seems to validate and justify that discontent.

In “The Courage to Heal” Laura Davis inadvertently illustrates this concept with a dramatic rendering of the separation from her mother. “I’ve built this wall between us with careful, conscious precision,” she writes in an elegiac tone. “I know I’m not the daughter you wanted, Momma. I’ve always known that. But with my wall close around me, I can see that you’re not the mother I wanted, either, all-knowing, all-giving, all-protective.”

In a later section, Davis composes a letter she wishes she could receive from her mother after six months of their estrangement. It is not just a letter of total acceptance and apology, but of virtual self-abasement, and it ends by congratulating Davis for her courage.

“I must step past my own denial and support you,” Davis has her mother say. “As your mother, I want to give you whatever love and nurturing I can to help you get through this thing … Laurie, I think you are incredibly brave to do this work. I am proud of you. Your willingness to face the truth of your life is an inspiration to me. I only hope I can face my own life with as much grit and determination.” Davis reports with regret that her mother’s reaction to the proposed letter was not a happy one, and that was when Davis realized that reconciliation was impossible: “I was not going to get what I wanted from my mother.”

In the same section another woman writes of her mother, “Her love is not the kind of love I can believe in. She doesn’t have the instincts of a lioness for her cubs, and that’s the kind of primal love I need.” Bass and Davis note in reply, without a trace of irony: “This fierce, clear love isn’t available to many survivors from their families.”

Perfect, “fierce, clear” love is not available from most families, period. And no parent can be “all-knowing, all-giving, all-protective.” But recovering a memory of horrible abuse means not having to acknowledge the ordinary limitations of family love. As a victim of abuse, the survivor no longer has to make any concessions to the needs or feelings of others in her family.

She has suffered, and she is therefore the center of the family’s emotional and moral universe. She must have all the power and control in her relationships with her family, and her family must, according to another checklist in “The Courage to Heal,” accept the truth of the accusations without reservation, apologize, conform to the survivor’s wishes, say only the right things, and let the survivor direct the relationship.

In “I Thought We’d Never Speak Again” Davis acknowledges the seductive power of the victim’s role. It can be paradoxically wonderful at first to feel injured or “owed” or morally superior. But, Davis says, “while it is often empowering to identify as ‘a battered wife,’ ‘an abandoned husband’ or ‘the mother of a drug addict,’ in order to claim our legacy and heal from it, aligning ourselves with our injuries only benefits us for so long. Ultimately, a label that initially brought strength, solidarity and understanding can become a prison from which we must free ourselves.”

Davis claims that the estranged abuse survivors she’s met have welcomed this new emphasis on reconciliation: “There have been many survivors coming to my events,” she says (she maintains a list of workshops and personal appearances on her Web site), “many of whom say their progress and evolution on these issues is tracking my own and that they feel like it’s ‘time’ for this perspective to come out.”

But there have also been wary and angry reactions to Davis’ new philosophical focus on reconciliation, among both her abuse-survivor constituency and from people who feel “The Courage to Heal” was instrumental in inducing some women to believe they had been abused when they hadn’t been, destroying families and relationships as a result. “Well, isn’t that nice?” one woman snapped sarcastically when I told her about Davis’ new book. “She cashes in on the train wreck and now she’ll make another wad cleaning it up.”

According to the penultimate chapter of Davis’ new book, forgiveness is the major way to free ourselves from the prison of victimhood, but, she cautions, that forgiveness has to be genuine. “We live in a ‘feel good’ culture that encourages us to search for easy answers, speedy solutions and the immediate cessation of pain,” she writes. “As a result, what passes for forgiveness in our culture today is often a kind of pseudo-forgiveness in which people gloss over their grief, anger and pain in order to generate a false sense of magnanimity.”

Genuine forgiveness often requires an accounting, she notes, approvingly quoting Richard Hoffman, author of “Half the House,” a book outlining how he came to terms with his childhood: “There’s this weird Hollywood idea that all relationships should have a happy ending — that everyone should forgive everyone in the final scene. But if a man burns down my house, I don’t owe him forgiveness, he owes me a house … Real forgiveness restores the moral fabric of a community and a family. It says, ‘We are all accountable to each other.’”

Justice requires truth and the acknowledgment of responsibility. The perpetrators of sexual abuse have to acknowledge that what they did was wrong, stop making excuses, and apologize for the damage they have done to their victims. Out-of-control recovered-memory therapists, accusers who broke up their families on the strength of “developed” memories that are more likely than not untrue, and, above all, those who supported and encouraged the recovered-memory movement also need to face up to the mistakes they made. Otherwise, our forgiveness can be rightly withheld.

Given all the agony caused by mistaken “recovered memories” and their consequent family estrangements, it’s understandable that Davis would want to play down her own role in them. She’ll admit that, back in the ’90s, a therapist here and there made mistakes, of course, and perhaps a few people need to apologize. But Davis herself doesn’t. As in the reconciliation she has achieved with her mother, any question of truth or guilt or accountability can be set aside. No one needs to apologize for anything; no one needs to admit being wrong. Never mind justice or truth. We can just go on from here.

Andrea Dworkin in agony

The anti-porn feminist's strange tale of drugged rape in a European hotel has even her allies wondering.

In an article published in the New Statesman magazine and the Guardian newspaper in June, American radical feminist Andrea Dworkin told a harrowing story. She was, she told her readers, drinking her second kir royale one afternoon in the garden of a European hotel when she became ill (“sickish or weakish or something”). She staggered up to her room and collapsed on the bed. The bartender’s assistant brought up her dinner. “I don’t know how he got inside,” Dworkin wrote, “since the door was dead-bolted. He appeared suddenly, already in.” Then she lost consciousness. When she awoke, it was night, the curtains hadn’t been drawn and she was in pain. “I hurt deep inside my vagina … I went to the toilet and found blood on my right hand, fresh, bright red, not menstrual blood, not clotted blood. I’m past bleeding. I tried to find the source of the blood. My hand got covered in it again.”

In trying to puzzle out how she could have sustained a bloody injury while she was unconscious, Dworkin gradually became convinced she’d been drugged and raped. She speculated in detail about how her attackers might have done the deed: “I couldn’t remember, but I thought they had pulled me down toward the bottom of the bed so that my vagina was near the bed’s edge and my legs were easy to manipulate.” To a woman who had already experienced the full measure of sexual victimization in her life (her Web site autobiography recounts molestation as a child, beatings and torture as a wife, an assault in jail, rape and prostitution), the idea that she had been used sexually while unable to resist was particularly horrifying. “In my own life, I don’t have intercourse. That is my choice, ” Dworkin wrote. “I had decided long ago that no one would ever rape me again; he or they or I would die. But this rape was necrophiliac: they wanted to fuck a dead woman … I thought that being forced and being conscious was better, because then you knew; even if no one ever believed you, you knew.”

Given Dworkin’s particularly visible and strident brand of feminism — highlighted by the argument in her provocative 1987 book “Intercourse” that even consensual sexual penetration is a paradigm of oppression — it’s conceivable that there are men in the world who would consider violating her a good evening’s entertainment. Dworkin seems to think her story should be taken as further evidence of masculine malevolence. There are those who would be willing to accept it as such, of course, if only they felt sure it really happened. Within a week, on the very day that Dworkin’s new book, “Scapegoat: The Jews, Israel and Women’s Liberation,” was published in the U.K., Guardian columnist Catherine Bennett voiced her doubts about the veracity of Dworkin’s story.

In her response to Dworkin’s essay, Bennett first spends several paragraphs paying tribute to Dworkin’s previous reputation for factual precision, noting in particular her Web site’s carefully substantiated statements regarding several Dworkin rumors. But Bennett goes on to question why Dworkin did not seek medical attention for the pain and injuries she described: the unusual bleeding, the “big strange bruise” on one breast, the “huge deep gashes” on her leg. “The reluctance of a rape victim to be further violated by examination and questioning is understood,” Bennett writes, “but if this is what prevented Dworkin from seeking help it does not seem consistent with her current decision to relive the ordeal, in vivid detail, for readers of the New Statesman.” Bennett also wonders why Dworkin, an anti-rape activist who has devoted much time and energy to battling the crime, decided not to inform the police or hotel security when she realized what had happened to her: “Is this bartender, with his accomplice, to be allowed to continue drugging and raping female guests?” Bennett asks.

Once the first doubts had been publicly expressed, an accusatory pile-on ensued in the U.K. press and on the Web. The rape story was dissected — and dissed — by a parade of disdainful commentators. There were nit-picking questions of logistics and logic: Why didn’t the rapists close the curtains; did they want to be seen committing the crime? Why would they have drawn her to the edge of the bed as she surmised; wouldn’t it be inconvenient for a standing man to try to insert his penis into a woman lying at the level of his knees? How was it that both the bartender and his assistant could be absent from their duties in the hotel without incurring questions — and what if they had alibis? And so on.

Others, like “Susan Marie” at MouthOrgan.com, were less concerned with the objective truth of the incident than with other parts of Dworkin’s story. One of the strangest passages in Dworkin’s essay is a descent into mad, despairing, politically incorrect questions about why the rapists might have selected her: “I go down the checklist: no short skirt; it was daylight; I didn’t drink a lot even though it was alcohol and I rarely drink, but so what? It could have been Wild Turkey or coffee. I didn’t drink with a man, I sat alone and read a book, I didn’t go somewhere I shouldn’t have been, wherever that might be when you are 52, I didn’t flirt, I didn’t want it to happen. I wasn’t hungry for a good, hard fuck that would leave me pummelled with pain inside.”

“Susan Marie” was disturbed not by the last statement’s almost sensual preoccupation with the imagery of violent intercourse but by the “checklist” itself, a disquieting mental exercise for a feminist to resort to. To her, it suggested that — contrary to everything a rape expert should know — Dworkin somehow still believes that only young, attractive women, or those who take foolish risks, or those who secretly “want it to happen,” are raped. “It feels,” wrote “Susan Marie,” “as though underneath all of everything she’s said about rape, there’s still the belief that women who are raped had it coming somehow. And that she’s different because she didn’t do anything to bring it on.” At the very least, Dworkin seems to have wanted to absolve herself before her audience, to prove to us that she had done nothing to “deserve” it.

The criticisms of Dworkin’s piece ranged from sorrowful head shakings to bizarre speculations about her sex life. Some even made smug and astonishing statements to the effect that if it was true that she had been raped, it was merely her sexual karma coming home to roost, the result of her jihads against pornography and intercourse. Sexologist Susie Bright, who has had her share of virulent intellectual conflicts with Dworkin’s famous anti-pornography crusade (which resulted in a notorious body of Canadian censorship law), wrote on her Web site, “Plenty of my peers would say that they are utterly cold to any misfortune that might befall [Dworkin]. ‘Just think of all the lives she’s threatened, warped, and terrified,’ they remind me. ‘Canada is still reeling,’ my partner interjects.”

“Poubelle” on the Spies.com board wrote, “And I guess I feel worse for those who Dworkin has hurt than for her.” “REM” at MouthOrgan.com, although subsequently denying harboring any thought of Dworkin “deserving” such a thing, said, “Rape is about violence, and Dworkin makes herself a lightning rod for men with violence on their mind.” Dworkin should, therefore, just accept the universe’s balancing of her accounts, these critics imply, and, above all, shut up about it. “Jane Duvall,” also at MouthOrgan, wrote, “Cases like this do more to damage every credible case out there than anything else. It’s horribly irresponsible, and a disservice to women everywhere.” She echoes Bennett’s observation that the piece doesn’t do Dworkin or us any favors. In other words, she should never have published it.

The vehemence with which Dworkin’s “sins” — past and present — have been illuminated and enumerated by this incident recalls the subject of her new book, which parallels the roles and status of women and Jews as the twin scapegoats of world history. The concept of the scapegoat comes from ancient Jewish rituals enacted on High Holy Days, when two goats would be sacrificed: one slaughtered on the altar of the Temple and the other driven out into the desert, ceremonially laden with the people’s burden of sin. To be a scapegoat, then, is to be a proxy, a living effigy punished to assuage others’ fear, guilt and shame.

“Scapegoat” the book is an alarming, confrontational, full-tilt boogie through the vast catalog of injustices and horrors, individual and institutional, that have been visited on women and Jews through the ages. In a florid, violent and accusatory synthesis of two different strands of classic victimology, Dworkin makes comparisons between phenomena like rape and pogroms, Nazi hate literature and pornography. The parallels she draws are not particularly original, but no one denies the importance of pointing out the way that the often similar persecution of Jews and women illustrates the dark side of human behavior in situations of unequal power. Yet both groups, the heroes of Dworkin’s implied morality play, are analyzed solely as victims — at least until Dworkin comes to the establishment of the state of Israel. For most of history, Dworkin says, women and Jews have had little or no capability or strength of their own, and thus have simply — and nobly, and righteously, and innocently — suffered.

Another of Dworkin’s theses is equally banal and simplistic: Evil begets evil. Those who are persecuted will want to persecute others in their turn. When the downtrodden attain their own ugly measure of power, they will — inevitably, she implies — begin to abuse others, just as “masculinist” Israel now stomps on its own pitiful women and the helpless Palestinians. Women who are co-opted by male supremacy are like wartime collaborators, or the vicious female guards and doctors in the Nazi concentration camps. They will even victimize other women and thus become, in Dworkin’s world, “honorary men.”

Dworkin’s most original and controversial conclusion to all this is that “women need land and guns.” Women must reject pacifism and literally create their own militant, separatist territory (or Lebensraum?). As a practical concept, of course, the idea is nothing short of nuts. But even as an exercise in rhetoric it is unconvincing, mainly because it is unclear why Dworkin believes that Womanland would be immune to the temptations of structural power she has just been at such pains to illustrate. If the Israelis are practicing the sadism they learned from anti-Semites on the Palestinians, won’t women also find their own scapegoats?

Dworkin also does not seem to see the inconsistency between her own blistering, demonizing prose and her condemnations of hate speech and hate literature. “Words make killing easier, legitimate, or inevitable,” she writes. “Words can kill.” Why, then, does Dworkin spew so much intemperate rhetoric herself, rhetoric that overtly justifies violence? Because, it seems, the people she is scapegoating deserve it.

Again, it is easy — perhaps too easy — to see the symbolic connections between the subject of Dworkin’s book and the way she herself has been publicly vilified — and pitied — for her rape story. A common charge is that her essay was just a publicity stunt, that with it Dworkin not only had succeeded in obtaining sympathetic attention for her book but had perhaps deliberately told a questionable story, so that when challenged, she could continue to play the feminist martyr whose agonized cries are never believed. “It reads almost as if Dworkin wants to be doubted,” Bennett wrote.

But most think that idea is far too cynical. Bright wrote a surprisingly sympathetic column on the issue. “I could easily believe she had a black-out, and nasty injuries, from an unexpected dose of alcohol and sunburn,” Bright said. “I would rather have sympathy for that version of events than to believe she is maliciously making the whole thing up.” Bright thinks the truth is probably simpler than that — and sadder: “By the time you finish reading [her story], you know she has finally completely lost her mind.”

Michael Lamport Commons, a researcher with Harvard Medical School’s Program in Psychiatry and Law, also sounds a note of caution: “Lying is a concept of free will,” he told me. People have to know that they are telling untruths in order to be justifiably called liars. He’s not sure that is the case with Dworkin: “While rare, people have dreams of being raped, which appear real to them … Many character disorders, including borderline personality, involve ‘lying’ and not knowing one lies.” Dworkin’s bleak personal history also raises the specter of post-traumatic stress disorder, with its all-too-common dissociative fugues and fragmented flashbacks to earlier scenes of violence.

There is no question that something happened to Dworkin last year, something that has devastated her psychologically, and it seems that the disbelief of even her closest associates has been a significant part of her distress. In her essay, Dworkin writes that she called her feminist gynecologist in New York a few days after the incident. She says the doctor told her that a gynecological exam would prove nothing one way or the other and that being called on a Sunday had made her decide to get an unlisted number. The doctor’s coldheartedness toward a patient she had treated for 10 years is not explained further. Even Dworkin’s “mate,” gay feminist John Stoltenberg, who has made a home with Dworkin for 25 years, did not really believe her. “John looked for any other explanation than rape,” Dworkin writes. “He abandoned me emotionally. Now a year has passed and sometimes he’s with me in his heart and sometimes not.”

To compound her misery — whatever its source — Dworkin writes that she lost her beloved father in December and was herself hospitalized a few weeks later, after she was found wandering and delirious with fever on a New York street, suffering from pneumonia, cellulitis (an infection of the soft tissue of the legs) and blood clots. Immobilized in the hospital for a month, her muscles atrophied and she couldn’t walk. It would take a heart of diamond-bright stone to remain unmoved by her plight.

“I used to worry about taking a Valium or two to fall asleep in strange hotels,” she writes. “Now I take on average 12 pills to sleep and they only work sometimes. How can I close my eyes and voluntarily become unconscious? For the first time in my life I go to shrinks, a lucid one who prescribes drugs and an empathetic one whose specialty is in dealing with people who have been tortured. I have been tortured and this drug-rape runs through it, a river of horror. I’m feeling perpetual terror, they both tell me. I stare blankly or I say some words. I’m ready to die.” All of Dworkin’s symptoms, the depression, the self-doubt, the free-floating anxiety, are classic reactions to major trauma.

“As I read Andrea’s confession, tears came to my eyes,” Bright writes. Her comments on the question of the truth of Dworkin’s accusations are typical of those of more sympathetic observers: “Let’s put the rape story aside — I don’t have to ascertain whether Dworkin has been assaulted on this occasion or not. She is hurting, and something is wrong.” That is one truth in this situation, at least. Pain is pain. Even when it is “deserved” or “self-inflicted” (and we never hesitate to judge about that, even in the absence of definitive evidence), it is still pain.

The real bottom line, though, is that Andrea Dworkin — that ugly, lunatic, “man-hating” feminist — has publicly cried rape without offering sufficient evidence. In the current political climate of this brave new millennium, women have been forced to concede — on perfectly logical grounds, of course — that women do not always tell the truth about rape. So over time the default response to the charge has changed. Now, instead of a tendency toward belief and sympathy when a woman claims she has been raped, there is considerably more caution and doubt.

This may be only right, but there is an ugly lesson in Dworkin’s story that all women should heed. It says that if you aren’t considered a reliable witness to begin with, or if you are already considered a social outrage, the proof that you offer to overcome that tendency toward doubt had better be utterly unassailable in every respect, or the real gangbanging will begin.

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Fans of John Norman's novels about the planet Gor create virtual and real-life worlds in which women are slaves.

Every organism has its place in nature. That of woman is at the foot of man,” Tarl Cabot thinks while training his slave girl in “Beasts of Gor.” “Beasts” is Book 12 in the venerable and controversial “Gor” series of 25 science fiction novels written by John Norman (the pseudonym of a philosophy professor at a respected university in New York). Beginning with the first book in the series, “Tarnsman of Gor” (1966), Norman has spun tales of the planet Gor, also known as “Counter-Earth” because it occupies a position in our solar system exactly opposite us on the other side of the sun. This shadow planet’s gravity is weaker than ours, which probably accounts for the preternatural perkiness of all the women’s breasts in the books’ illustrations.

In Gor’s violent, low-tech society, men are Men and women are slaves. This, the novels say — and say and say and say again — is the proper and rightful state of things because it is in consonance with the true evolved nature of the sexes. The basic Gorean culture is modeled on the ancient city-states of Greece and Asia Minor, but there are variants of other cultures, too, like the Mongols, the Vikings, the Inuit and various African tribes.

There are free women on Gor — treasured mothers, sisters, daughters and “Free Companions” to free men — but they generally sequester themselves with their children at home behind high walls. Their freedom, such as it is, is precarious. They are always subject to being kidnapped by a rival city-state’s raiders — or even outlaws of their own city — and forced into slavery.

This is not great literature, and even Norman’s most avid fans admit that the writing itself leaves a lot to be desired. The narrative tone is at times hilariously bombastic (think of the portentous voice-over in the movie version of “Conan the Barbarian”), and the story lines, especially in the later installments, are frequently interrupted by long passages of repetitious philosophical blather.

In spite of the books’ reputation as male-centric erotic literature, there are, surprisingly, no really explicit sexual passages, and several of the books are written from a female point of view, tracing the characters’ acceptance of the “paradox of the collar,” that is, the “inner liberation” women find in a life of utter obedience to a masterful man.

Whatever its narrative shortcomings, Norman’s politically incorrect world was once enormously popular. Hundreds of thousands of copies of his books were sold, and they were translated into several languages. Gradually, though, his work fell out of favor — some say it was spurned by gutless publishers and distributors in spite of audience demand — and it is largely out of print.

Yet today, despite the fact that most of the series is no longer available except in secondhand stores (the first six books were recently rereleased by erotica publisher Masquerade Press but met with retailer resistance), Gor has experienced a huge revival in the virtual world of online role-playing and, perhaps most surprising in this post-feminist era, also serves as the philosophical template for a self-styled community of “lifestyle Goreans,” who enthusiastically embrace and practice consensual female slavery in their everyday lives. The lifestyle Goreans also adhere to other rituals, codes and precepts of the fictional Gor, and community sites such as Silk and Steel and the Gorean Public Boards and individual offerings such as the Slave Siren’s Page serve as an important means of education, fellowship and recruitment to the lifestyle.

A major theme running through the Gor novels, and often echoed in Gor fandom, is that the free women secretly long to be owned by dominant and powerful men. “Slavery, of course, is the surest path by means of which a woman can discover her femininity,” the author observes in “Magicians of Gor.” “The paradox of the collar is the freedom which a woman experiences in at last finding herself, and becoming herself.”

On Gor, only the slave women completely indulge their sexuality; free women are supposed to maintain a chilly dignity. So if a free woman should make the error of behaving with less than Madonna-like circumspection (for example, by flirting too whorishly with a man), she has revealed her fundamental desire to submit to him — her “instinctive” wish to be mere chattel at the man’s mercy — and thus forfeits her right to remain free. She’s usually stripped of her face veils and slapped into chains forthwith.

There are also dramatic incidents in the books in which a free woman, overcome with lust for some heroic muscleman, throws off her robes, falls naked to her knees and begs the man to put his collar around her neck and his brand upon her thigh. “Own us, dominate us! Enslave us, properly, so that we may love you as women are meant to love, wholly and unreservedly, totally, without a thought for ourselves!” demands a female character in “Renegades of Gor.”

Even taking into consideration that many online role players use multiple names, there have to be thousands of virtual Goreans, and it is unusual for any fan base of that size to be left untapped in today’s cutthroat publishing industry. But Norman’s current publisher, Vision Entertainment Ltd., has faced an uphill slog the past few years in its attempt to bring the series back to the market. The small New York publisher plans to return six of Norman’s Gor novels to print and to publish a new Gor novel (“Witness of Gor”) by the author, and it has invested heavily in the creation of GOR Magazine, a serialized graphic novelization of Norman’s books — all with Norman’s approval and oversight.

Vision has run into a series of setbacks, however, culminating in a run-in with Canadian customs that scuttled plans to introduce the graphic novelization to the public via an excerpt in Heavy Metal magazine. Under Canadian customs law, according to Darrell Benvenuto at Vision Entertainment, “You can show a lady with her hands tied. You can show a naked lady. But you cannot show a naked lady with her hands tied — that’s ‘bondage,’ and is not allowed across the border.” In spite of these reversals, Benvenuto expects the hundreds of thousands of dollars that Vision has already sunk into Norman’s works to eventually pay off, and after looking at the phenomenon that is Gor fandom, I have little doubt that he’s right.

The Gor society on the Internet is in many ways a microcosm of society in general, complete with “religious” conflicts, “in” groups and “out” groups, wars and rumors of wars, hoaxes, celebrities, propaganda, changing fashions, romance, boredom and widespread emotional misadventure (arising from both virtual iniquity and actual crimes). The fights are mostly over matters of interpretation, definitions of terms, what a particular reference from the books means in context, whether free women should be allowed to drink in a tavern, whether “no kill zones” are legitimate, how much “respect” — if any — a master should show a slave and so on. People also fight over how much license should be allowed for the fact that they are not on Gor but on Earth, and not actually swinging swords on Gorean battlements but talking to one another over a computer network.

But the main schism within Gor fandom is between the role-playing Goreans and the tiny minority of real-time lifestyle Goreans, and it is a bitter split indeed.

“Bear,” a prolific poster on the Gorean Public Boards, has lived a Gorean lifestyle for almost 20 years. He is married to a “free companion” and has two female slaves. One of the slaves has lived with him and his wife for the past eight years. The other, his slave for about a year so far, is married to another man, and she and Bear are only occasionally able to see each other in real life (with the full knowledge and sanction of her husband).

Bear has “collared” and later dismissed other women, who have lasted, on average, about one to three years. A slave “fails” when she is unable to submit herself totally to a man’s control, when she rebels against her collar or wants release from her Master. (Failure is possible only on Earth, because on Gor slavery is not consensual, as it has to be here.)

Bear considers the Internet role players a threat to his way of life. “These people harm us by reputation — our philosophy comes from a series of SF books, we have a hard enough row to hoe here in our pursuit of simple regard and respect — without the kids taking the ethos and philosophy and turning it into a game, with rules for rolling dice to see if your slave is pregnant.”

“Ubar Luther,” the leader of a “city” of Gorean role players on America Online and author of the definitive Educational Scrolls of Delphius, says that the lifestylers’ antagonism toward role players is based on a fallacious argument: “The books were written as entertainment only. They were not written to be a lifestyle guide. So anything outside the books has the same validity. Role-playing and real-time are on the same level. Neither was intended. Real-time has no special claim on the books.” And, he says, “even the real-timers engage in some role-playing. They hang out in a ‘cyber’ tavern and get served ‘cyber’ food and drink. They often assume fictional nicknames.”

Luther’s idea that the lifestylers have made a “special claim” on the books is revealing. Among Goreans, conflicts about how to interpret and use what Bear reverently refers to as the “source texts” are rampant. There is a kind of continuous holy war going on over what constitutes Gorean orthodoxy and non-Gorean heresy, and not only between the lifestylers and the role players. Internecine conflict often breaks out within the lifestyler and role-playing communities, too.

In the online role-playing community there are literalists, traditionalists, liberals, sophists and the Gorean equivalents of dervishes, charismatics, voodooists and snake handlers. The virtual cities, taverns, camps, caves and castles are often at war with each other, and the excitement of these virtual “raids” can add to a slow night at the Web site. Contemptuous rhetoric flows freely in all directions, and the faithful are exhorted and admonished, chaffed, chivied, reprimanded — and regularly excommunicated from one sect, only to join another.

There are some common ritual requirements for most Gorean role-playing venues. Free women are supposed to be rare — their participation is even prohibited by some Goreans — but they are fairly common on most of the role-playing sites. Masters and Mistresses (free women with slaves) take names with capital letters, and slaves’ names are all in lowercase, followed by the initials of their Masters in “curly” brackets. Bear’s married slave, for example, would identify herself online as “tessa {B}.”

Some slaves also identify their “caste color,” or the color of the “silks” worn by each different kind of slave. Red is for the “pleasure slaves,” white for the “reserved” or “virgin” slaves, black for the most menial (and usually not sexually attractive) “kettle slaves” and so on. The brackets are referred to as the “collar,” or “ko’lar” in Gorean parlance, and the initials are the slave’s “tag.” Although not universal, it has become common for slaves to refer to themselves in the third person, avoiding all use of the words “I” and “me,” and to capitalize all pronouns that refer to Free Persons.

The majority of online interactions in role-playing Gorean chat rooms and IRC (Internet Relay Chat) channels have some sort of sexual or flirtatious subtext, although surprisingly little explicit cybersex occurs publicly in Gorean venues, unlike in many other straightforwardly prurient Internet hot spots. Most of the cyber “furring” occurs in private channels and via Instant Message. The Gorean virtual slaves usually portray themselves as childlike: young, giggly and gorgeous. And they spend great amounts of time detailing — in the flowery language of 19th century potboilers — their ritual “serves” of food and beverages, complete with lowered heads, trembling lips, wide and worshipful eyes and so on. I found that a dozen variations on “pert nipples tightening in the chill of the tavern coolery” were more than enough for me to get the idea. I started to tune them out and spent more time enjoying the less repetitious activity and interaction with the Free Persons.

One of the things that causes most of the doctrinal screaming and carrying on in the role-playing community is the laxness of narrative discipline. A great deal of OOC, or “out of character,” commentary — like references to real-life phone calls, the other screen names of a character or a dinner from Taco Bell — occurs in what is supposed to be, say, a Gorean desert oasis. Traditionalists object to things like slaves making disrespectful comments in their “thoughts.”

Then there are the more serious outrages against honor, like warriors pledging allegiance to more than one “Home Stone” (the Gor symbol of an independent community or tribe), slave girls begging collars from multiple Masters under different slave names and slaves who turn out to be men and Masters who turn out to be women.

To say that none of this matters because it is only a game in cyberspace is to misunderstand the nature and meaning of these interactions and relationships. While some people are blithe or cynical, most role players see the Gorean game as legitimate social interaction that can have real consequences for real people. It is at least as serious a matter to most of them as the arts and professional sports are for people who follow them. For many online Goreans, their “play” is a deeply meaningful enhancement to their real life, in which they try out different roles, experiment with their sexuality and test-drive a philosophy. It is also no accident that the vast majority of lifestyle Goreans started out as role players.

But IRC slavery and lifestyle slavery are definitely two different things, says “sura,” one of the real-life Gorean slaves whose Master, “Bill,” commanded her to speak to me via e-mail. “Obedience isn’t really all that hard,” she told me, but “surrender of one’s self is.”

No naive schoolgirl, sura had been in the military and was a police officer for 16 years. “Sometimes,” she says, speaking in the approved third-person form, “this girl felt that she took such work in hopes of driving out of her that which she sought, but could never find … peace and contentment at a man’s feet.” Married for more than 18 years, she raised four children and was the decision maker and major breadwinner in the partnership. That life, she says, left her “unfulfilled as a female, and dissatisfied as a human being.”

Virtually collared by her Master last year after being abandoned by another, she moved in with him and his other slave girls, “feli” and “ciosa,” about three weeks ago. The transition has been difficult for all of them: “Sura has been beaten more times than she cares to count, mostly for displeasing acts; her mouth, actions that belong to only free women, the fear of giving up everything.” She says she has also endured punishment because of conflicts and angers brought on by her reaction to the behavior of one of her “chain sisters.”

There is, sura says, little furniture in the Master’s house. His chair dominates the living area and the “girls” kneel on the floor. They sleep in a “kennel” with a slave mat, pillow, blanket and footlocker for the few possessions their Master lets them keep. The Master keeps them on a diet, which is the only food that sura is allowed to eat other than what he gives her out of his hand, a “gentle reminder,” sura says, “that our substance comes at his discretion.”

She says she fought her Master’s will at first, “kicking, hitting and screaming,” and she still fights, “but she grows weaker. The teachings of her youth, an emasculated world, cause her to fight and give her what little strength she still has to continue to fight, but in the end he will win, and she will be conquered, turned into nothing more than a helpless, whimpering pet.”

The experience of helplessness is apparently a crucial part of what sura is seeking from her Master. “When he took both of this one’s wrists in his one hand, this one knew she had been captured, held captive by a man; she was his, now and forever.” And the sexual conquest was a major turning point: “It took this one about 11 days in Master’s house before she would submit her body to him, beg for his touch and his use. The day this one begged for her rape is one of the happiest of this girl’s life.” Summing up how she feels about her new life, she says: “The answer is simple: when he breathes, I breathe; as his heart beats, my heart beats; my sole purpose is to please him; and when he dies, so too shall I.”

Sura’s Master, Bill, says that he was drawn into the lifestyle by a former girlfriend, who wanted him to make her his slave. “I started attending a Gorean discussion group that was an offshoot of the local [bondage and discipline and sadomasochism, or BDSM] scene,” he says. The group was “tightly focused on the intensity of the Master/slave relationship described in the Gor series, and had as its purpose the exploration of that relationship to see if it was viable. At first, I was pretty skeptical about the idea that women could be contented and fulfilled at a man’s feet, but I liked the girl a lot, so I was willing to give it a try.”

Fourteen years later he has three slaves, all of whom have some college education. “Everything that I have experienced in the intervening years has led me to believe that what [Norman] said is true of a great many women. I have seen, again and again, intelligent, strong-willed women grow happier, more beautiful, less stressed and more contented when made the slaves of men.”

There is little question that BDSM scenarios have enormous erotic appeal for many men and women, heterosexual and homosexual alike, so it is not surprising that a fantasy series like Gor would have an enthusiastic following. Goreans take the very popularity of these fantasies, and the power the narrative has to make a willing lifestyle captive of women like sura, as proof of one of their central beliefs: that men and women have been programmed by evolutionary history to be, respectively, naturally dominant and naturally submissive and that people can be truly happy only when they live in accordance with their biological instincts to be either a Master or a slave.

The Gorean Argument, something of a definitive statement by “Marcus of Ar,” a major contributor to the Silk and Steel site, says that “the process of evolution has naturally selected for strong, competitive males, and females who were both desirable to such men, and who were in turn attracted to such men.” This is a familiar simplification of some currently popular theories in evolutionary psychology, and it has a ring of truth to it, although those most disposed to salivate at that bell are the ones most flattered by it — namely, strong, competitive men. Even science has its seductive narratives.

Marcus goes on to elaborate his understanding of human evolution: “Weak males would not survive the competitive selection process to reproduce. Females who were not attractive and responsive to strong men would not be selected to reproduce. Therefore, nature being what it is, the non-competitive and unattractive geneaological [sic] lines would fade away and the strong and attractive lines would continue to survive.”

There’s only one little problem with this idea: Weak males and unattractive females obviously did survive to reproduce; otherwise most of the men in the world today would be George Clooney and most of the women would be Jennifer Lopez (with better clothes). The reason that “mediocre,” “ugly” and “wimpy” genes are still around and being expressed in the human population — and in quantities far greater than Clooney and Lopez genes — is not, as Marcus later goes on to charge, because the moral constraints of civilization interrupted the marvelous process of winnowing the race toward perfection. It is because human sexual activity and reproductive strategies have always been amazingly elastic and complicated. Even at the dawn of time, it probably wasn’t just a matter of bigger and stronger cave men whacking lesser men and dragging their women home by the hair. Female choice and female resistance to sexual control (even if it had to be by means of subterfuge and secrecy) have always played a huge role.

“Males who were unsuited to combat would not live long,” Marcus says. “Females who refused to breed with the combative males would not do so, and would not propagate the species.”

The scientific and logical errors in this statement are manifold: It assumes that combat was a constant and crucial fact of early human evolution, that if women refused one kind of man they would not mate with others, that the only way for a man to live a long life was to fight with other men, that combat was the sole means of reproductive competition and that submission to her mate’s physical dominance was the female’s only means of reproductive success. All these ideas are just plain wrong.

Brian Ferguson, professor of anthropology at Rutgers University, says the popular idea that our distant past was a sanguinary “war of all against all” is a “fable.” Archaeological evidence tells us that deaths by interpersonal violence, especially violent deaths from organized intentional mayhem — war — seem to have been far more rare in prehistory than they became later. He cites the case of Japan in particular: “Evidence of violent death goes from .002 percent of approximately 5,000 skeletons from hunter-gatherer times to 10 percent of all deaths in the subsequent agricultural period.”

Aggressive domination of man over man, or man over woman, was also not the sole basis of reproductive competition or any guarantee of reproductive success. In fact, being too combative and aggressive could reduce reproductive success, because combat and killing are inherently risky propositions. Not only would warriors get killed themselves, their violent ways made it more likely that they and their women and children would be targeted for retaliation later on. Meanwhile, back at the hearth, chances are the wimps would be having it on with all the widows. Bearing out this scenario are some recent studies of the primitive Yanomamo tribe in South America, showing that war leaders are likely to leave behind fewer surviving children than other men.

Furthermore, women’s reproductive priorities have always demanded that they mate with men who would be less likely to indulge in domestic violence against their mates and their children, and who could be counted on to stick around and provide child-rearing help and sustenance at the hearth, instead of running off to kill the guys in the next valley and bring home a new girlfriend as booty.

So while violence and conquest certainly played some role in human evolution, so did cooperation and conciliation, and — contradicting the macho, individualistic romanticism espoused by some evolutionary psychologists today — peaceful men probably bequeathed just as many, if not more, survivors to history as the warlike ones did. In any case, both kinds of traits were selectively valuable in different circumstances, and in both men and women. (Goreans seem to want us to believe that girls inherit only their mothers’ genes and boys inherit only their fathers’.) In short, most evolutionary psychologists agree that it is the flexibility and diversity of human reproductive strategies and choices that have made the human animal so successful and that also account for the wild mix of human types we see around us today — few of them conforming to the Gorean ideal.

So where does the sexual appeal of the dominance and submission scenario come from? “Why,” Marcus of Ar asks, “do women find themselves attracted, on a biological level, to the ‘rebel’ or the ‘bad boy,’ the male who indicates through his actions that he is strong enough to make his own rules? Why are men attracted to females who seem willing to obey their every wish or fantasy?” He is in essence asking why the Gor books are popular, why the online role-playing of Gorean scenarios has skyrocketed and why some people are even making attempts to create Gorean lifestyles based on the philosophy that female slavery is natural and right.

There seem to be as many guesses about this as there are experts, but in essence the theories come down to two: 1) the “lizard brain” erotic theory, which says that the older part of our brains, below the cerebral cortex, makes significant physiological connections among sex, fear and aggression, which are then picked up and elaborated by the conscious mind, and 2) the “control” theory, which basically argues that our fantasies always center around getting what we don’t have and controlling what we can’t control. The answer probably lies in a combination of the two.

The problem for the Goreans in the lizard brain theory is that the coupling of sexual feeling with anger, pain and aggression does not break out strictly along heterosexual or gender lines. There is statistical correlation — humps in the curve on either side of the gender line — but there is also considerable overlap. If there weren’t, we wouldn’t see male submissives and female dominatrixes in the BDSM community or the gay and lesbian versions in the “leather” life, in which the dominant partner of each pair is the same sex as the submissive. We also wouldn’t see individuals “switching” back and forth between the roles, as some do in both heterosexual and homosexual relationships.

Determinism according to gender is hard to sustain in view of these facts, but “Julian of London,” a chillingly smooth and plausible charmer and one of the slickest Gorean apologists I encountered, has another explanation for these cross-gender “aberrations” from our supposed instincts. He says that modern society and its incorrect ideas have contaminated us and ruined our deep biological responses. “I personally suspect that in a more natural society, the vast majority of men would have the strength and integrity to trigger the submission instinct in women,” he says. For him, a more natural society would be Gorean, in that it would “allow men to be strong” and to use their strength to conquer women.

And yes, he means men should be allowed to use their muscle in addition to employing mental and emotional methods of dominance, even to the extent of kidnapping, “training” and forcing sex, as happens frequently in the Gor novels. Asking for consent from a woman is exactly the wrong approach, Julian says. “For her to fire up, the woman would have to 1) see the man being strong-willed, big-hearted, etc., and 2) be ‘taken’ rather than begged by the man. This is what it means to be ‘swept off your feet.’”

While Julian still agrees with the basic premises underlying serious Goreans’ lifestyle, he is coming to have significant differences with their implementation. The current community of real-life Goreans, he maintains, not only are indulging in “too many dumb-ass sci-fi customs” but are “technophobic,” and their “dogma” is too “hardheaded.” In a sharp exchange with Bear and other Masters on the Gorean Public Boards, Julian also disputed, on theoretical grounds, the very foundation of the Gorean lifestyle as it is being lived: the consensual nature of the slavery entered into by women like sura.

Julian thinks that many Gorean men are eliciting that consent not so much by means of their “personal magnetism” or the proper use of masculine force but by mere reliance on the “rules” of the Gorean game. But most important, he considers the whole notion of female consent bogus and anti-Gorean. “If women respond the most to the Master who takes them without even showing the weakness of begging permission, then why should I, who know myself to be such a man, ask their consent? That is why I’ve said I am leaning against consent as an ideal.”

Julian’s fantasy is that he would be able to make a woman surrender to him totally if he were somehow able to “get away with” kidnapping and “training” her to please him. Right now, though, he not only doesn’t have a good prospect in mind but doesn’t have the time, the financial wherewithal or a secure place to “store” the woman — not to mention that he wouldn’t want to go to jail if things didn’t work out as he expected.

After I picked up my jaw from the desktop, Julian’s perfectly rational discussion of the reasons why he wouldn’t be out collecting women in his butterfly net next week reminded me that by far the most common hypothesis about the appeal of the Gorean fantasy is that it is a direct reaction to social needs and psychological problems, both communal and individual. Julian himself alluded to this when he said that part of his dilemma in implementing his plan and demonstrating his “integrity and will” to his kidnappee would be that “in our society, the man has to work past the automatic assumption that kidnappers and rapists are pitiable dweebs at heart.”

Tim Perper, a biologist who has studied human courtship for two decades, notes that “if some men fantasize that sexy women exist for male sexual pleasure, it is because such men want — but do not have — female sexual slaves.” Perper also points out the paradoxical nature of many women’s submission fantasies, which, he says, “operate as masturbatory consolation.” In a woman’s fantasies of being dominated, she is directing the action. Her “Master” does everything that she wants, and does it according to the imaginative specifications of her desires. Again, inside our heads (or in the pages of our fictions), we are always in charge. The reason most women would not like such things to happen in real life is that the essential condition of control would be gone.

Marcus of Ar says that “our fantasies are a barometer whereby we can measure what we desire, and what we feel we are lacking.” Historian G. R. Foote draws parallels with other fictional worlds that have caught our imaginations: “I wonder what would have blossomed on the Internet if it had been around at the time of Ayn Rand or “Stranger in a Strange Land” — both of which offered powerful and coherent ‘alternate universes’ … When I was a teenager I was fascinated by Rand, the simplicity and certitude of her worldview.”

Simplicity and certitude seem to be particularly important needs for many people, especially in a society in the midst of cultural upheaval. A simple organizing principle like biological determinism or theological creationism can offer enormous comfort and sustenance to people struggling with personal dissatisfactions or intimate failures, or who are frustrated by the insignificance they have in the power structure of their society.

In researching the “character” profiles of many role-playing men, I was struck by the fact that, besides descriptions of their great height, rippling muscles and impressive physical prowess, many of them referred to romantic betrayals, the perfidy of a woman in their character’s past or the general untrustworthiness of the female gender. To a man who has experienced romantic rejection, manipulation or treachery, a slave woman who would never leave him and would be utterly obedient to his every whim — and, especially, who would even enjoy being obedient — would have particular appeal.

A universal complaint from Gorean men is that today’s society is crippling or damaging their manhood, that they are not allowed to express the full flower of their masculinity. (“I wondered if a man could be a man without a slave,” one Norman character muses.) Contemporary customs and civilization are all at fault in the stifling and destruction of modern men, Gorean men say, but most culpable is the feminist agenda. When men feel this way, the appeal of the unbridled “hypermasculinity” portrayed in the Gor novels is not hard to understand.

Elaborate attempts at re-creating the fictional world of Gor, even in role-playing, give men the relief of action, a feeling of “doing something” about their masculine distress. And the imaginary hostilities and real arguments about who is doing this most “properly” provide an outlet for the anger and frustrations they experience in the larger reality. Online Gorean life offers an arena in which men can compete for leadership and dominance of the subculture. The Internet Gorean community gives them an opportunity to win, to conquer enemies, to control women and to influence a society. What’s not to like?

Women, on the other hand, seem to have more complex reasons for embracing Goreanism, says Fern Maiden, a role-playing Gorean. “For some,” she says, “I think they simply have extraordinarily submissive and nurturing natures.” Whether submissiveness is innate or socialized, it would be foolish to pretend that human behavior and psychological needs do not extend into the extremes. What Goreans claim is true of most women probably is true of some.

And dissatisfaction with the culture’s demands and gender constraints is not just confined to men, either. Feminist backlash rhetoric also plays to women. Many women dislike the pressure that they think feminism has imposed on them to be cold, decisive and independent, and are thus seeking a form of relief from that perceived pressure. The embrace of Gorean slavery is just the most extreme variety of this reaction.

In “Mercenaries of Gor,” one character, watching a female slave dance, pities female earthlings:

I then felt a sudden, poignant sorrow for the women of Earth. How different Fequia was from them. How far removed delicious, exquisite Fequia was from the motivated artifices, the lies and fabrications, the propaganda, the demeaning, sterile, unsatisfying, reductive, negative superficialities of antibiological roles, the prescriptions of an unnatural and pathological politics, the manipulative instrumentations of monsters and freaks. I wondered how many women of Earth wished they might find themselves in a collar, dancing naked in the firelight before warriors in an Alar camp.

Fern thinks the attraction may lie in an even simpler human — and not solely feminine — wish to adopt infantilism to avoid the rigors of responsibility: “They wish to avoid having to make decisions for themselves and want someone else to deal with all life’s difficulties,” she says of Gorean slaves. This seems like an especially resonant explanation for women like sura, who utterly reject their own former strength and self-sufficiency because they have always been unhappy with the hard necessities they experienced in taking care of themselves. Many psychologists would say that the completeness of the rejection or repudiation of former personal truths is in direct proportion to the depth of the unhappiness a person felt trying to live with them.

While many women can see the basic appeal of the “dominant male” Gor scenario, some experts think the appeal has more to do with the fact that strong, intelligent women need to be able to respect their partners and less with the fact that they may find female subjugation or groveling a delicious erotic prospect. Few women respect bullies or the swaggering jerks so commonly associated with the myth of machismo. Virtually everyone I talked to, men and women, could understand the value of the domination-submission kink in a couple’s erotic life. But the consensus, in consonance with Julian’s realization about this society’s understanding of rapists, was that men who need total control outside the bedroom in order to feel “manly” are pathetic or laughable.

I wonder where the challenges and entertainment are in a relationship based on such a static power structure. Once you’ve conquered the woman and bent her utterly to your will, where’s the fun? Still, it’s true that many of us do find a genuinely strong and confident man appealing. “I do too,” Fern says, “but it’s not because I’m submissive — it’s because I’m not submissive. Weak men bore me.”

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“City of God” by E.L. Doctorow

Let there be enlightenment: harrowing stories of war and vengeance interleaved with a strange tale that starts with a stolen crucifix.

“In the beginning was the Word,” the Apostle John tells us. That statement, some New Testament scholars say, is a symbolic reference to the fact that language — the human capacity for naming things — has created our consciousness and thus, in some sense, the world we live in.

In “City of God,” E.L. Doctorow makes use of a biblical structure: a convergence of literary genres dealing with a common theme. He introduces a series of tenuously related stories interleaved with philosophical sketches, cultural histories, theological ruminations, science lessons, songs, film commentary, poetry, prophecy and elaborate fantasies. Like the Bible, like a city — and perhaps even like God himself, Doctorow intimates — literature is “a great historically amassed communal creation” based on the Word and on the accretions of culture that language makes possible.




In line with the biblical tradition, he begins with a bang — the big bang, in fact — a vivid introduction to what Doctorow’s alter-ego narrator, Everett, describes as a “horrifying” cosmos that somehow created its own space and time to expand into. A God involved in such a Genesis, Everett thinks, is not only beyond our understanding but ultimately so fearsome as to provide no hope of consolation.

After this uneasy excursion to the birth of the universe, Doctorow drops us back into the present, at a New York dinner party where Everett whispers a seductive confession to another man’s wife. Moments later we are elsewhere — in the mind of an Episcopal priest, Tom Pemberton, who finds the stolen accouterments of his rundown lower Manhattan church scattered on the pushcarts and card tables of the city’s immigrant peddlers. And then, suddenly, the Midrash Jazz Quartet is doing poetic riffs on the lyrics of “Me and My Shadow,” applying traditional rabbinical commentary to the old song as if it were a Psalm.

Faced with such frustrating disjointedness, we’re not sure who is speaking to us in any given passage, what the point is or why it matters. As soon as we catch one thread of narrative and begin to follow it gratefully, we are twisted around and spun into another story, another era, another life. Slowly it comes to us: The lack of linearity, the parallels to the literary collage of Scripture, the narrative and philosophical jumble are all part of the point. The novel itself is an illustration of our existence; this is the confusion of the world, and it’s up to us to make sense of it.

Everett, the novelist whose notebooks we seem to be reading, is intrigued by a newspaper account of a peculiar theft: An 8-foot-tall brass crucifix has disappeared from the altar of Pemberton’s church and turned up on the roof of a radical synagogue on the Upper West Side. There Pemberton meets the rabbinical couple Joshua Gruen and Sarah Blumenthal, who have opened the Synagogue of Evolutionary Judaism to rediscover the “true essentials” of their faith through communal study of the Torah. Before long Pemberton, who has been teetering on the brink of apostasy for some time, is in love with Blumenthal and in trouble with his ecclesiastical superiors.

Who stole the cross, how they managed it and why they bothered form the initial mystery, and — appropriately — it remains unsolved. Pemberton himself says he doesn’t really want to know, because it’s in the nature of spiritual signs to be inexplicable. Signs can be recognized, he tells Everett over drinks, but their meaning and provenance can’t — maybe shouldn’t — be expressed in words.

Yet Doctorow has drawn out a whole spool of words here with his usual descriptive grace. He tells, inter alia, harrowing stories of war, atrocity and vengeance. There are coincidental deaths and miracles of survival. But why? It’s a question Everett considers at the end of the novel, just before spinning an apocalyptic prophecy that parallels the way the Bible itself ends, with the Book of Revelation. How can we believe in God’s plan, or even his existence, in a world as amorphous and violent as the early cosmos creating itself, “without form and void”? Yet this, Doctorow seems to be saying, is the cloudy, atomized text of our existence, and midrash — interpretation — is our job. Applying language, using our consciousness to literally make sense, is what causes the primordial particles to coalesce. When we put our questions into words, we begin to form the stars.

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Too darn hot

Romance fans clash over a new breed of explicit, kinky love story.

With his hands and his mouth, he caressed her, his fingers moving down her body, pausing for a moment at her navel, then sliding lower. They sifted through the thatch of copper curls at the base of her thighs, gently eased her legs apart, slipped between the damp folds of her sex, and a long dark finger slid inside her.

Kat Martin, a bestselling novelist, writes some pretty sexy consummations, like the one above, which can be found on Page 121 of “Night Secrets,” her latest historical romance. But Martin’s love scenes are in the most common romance tradition: They’re hot, yes, but not nuclear. And they’re tame indeed when compared to the acts detailed by more audacious romance novelists like Robin Schone, whose contribution to the current — and wildly controversial — erotic anthology “Captivated” features anal sex:

Kneeling on the bed between her legs, he rubbed himself round and round her tightly puckered flesh, pressing inward, harder and harder with each circle until he felt it blossoming open, and then suddenly he was inside her and Abigail was crying out in the darkness. He sucked in a deep breath and held still. Her flesh nipped and milked him. The soft mounds of her buttocks quivered against his groin.

While the ordinary romance novel contains sex as only a fraction of its content, “Captivated,” billed as “Tales of Erotic Romance,” features four stories that are far more heavy-handed and “out there” sexually than is usual in the genre. It’s not difficult to see why it has come under fire, prompting some in the romance community to insist that it should be removed from romance racks and sold at the back of the store — in other words, as frank “erotica” and not as “romance.”

The first story in the book, “Ecstasy,” by Bertrice Small, would seem to make their case. It is an absurd and gymnastic amalgam of the Arabian Nights, “Exit to Eden” and “The Blue Book of Fairy Tales.” In it a male sex slave conquers the heart of a frigid Amazon queen through dutiful applications of his 9-inch-long, improbably unflagging penis. Involving a full menu of pointless and glib “Penthouse Forum” sex acts, and told from a psychological distance of about six miles, it is at once hilarious and distasteful. The contrast is extraordinary between it and the deeper and more emotionally believable novella by Schone, the final piece in the volume. In “A Lady’s Pleasure,” the anal episode comes at the climax — you should excuse the expression — of an interlude of escalating emotional revelation and physical intimacy. The “transgressive” act signals the shattering of the last barrier between the couple.

Schone first pushed the erotic envelope in her 1995 romance novel, “Awaken My Love,” which was based on the unique — and some say wacky — premise of time travel via masturbatory orgasm. Not surprisingly, that high concept was a little too heady for the first 28 agents Schone tried to interest in the manuscript. “You simply cannot start a romance book with a masturbation scene!” one scolded her. Finally, though, Schone’s daring book was accepted by the 29th agent she approached and sold to romance publisher Avon five days after submission. Schone recently announced that she’d signed a contract with Kensington Books for $500,000.

Today’s billion-dollar romance novel industry offers readers an astonishing spectrum of styles and types, from “inspirational” and Regency romances (which feature chaste kisses at most) to the explicit — and even downright kinky — eroticism of writers like Schone. The chasm between the advocates of “sweet” romance and the devotees of the “scorching” became especially apparent in June, when Schone posted a spirited essay on the popular book review site All About Romance, justifying a place for her approach to sexuality in the genre and claiming that her work contributed to feminist and artistic liberation. “Do romance readers want a clueless virgin who regularly bathes but has no idea that she has a clitoris until the hero finds the magic button?” she asked.

Schone’s lively rant prompted All About Romance publisher Laurie Gold to ask romance readers and writers for their reactions, and the site’s News and Views message board promptly exploded, logging hundreds of vivid — and livid — comments in a matter of days.

Some of the first responses impugned Schone’s motives and sincerity: “I don’t care what you want to put in your book,” one “Irritated Beyond Belief” reader wrote. “But don’t stand on a pedestal and declare it art. Don’t whine about creativity and your right to write what you want … Get real. It’s publicity, and your books will probably fly off the shelf because of it.” The next message agreed: “This chick is merely after sales figures, nothing more.”

The question of the commercial appeal of sexual content is a vexed one in the romance community. Everyone denies that there is any overt editorial pressure on writers one way or another, but one author — who preferred to remain anonymous because of concern about repercussions from readers and publishers — nevertheless admits that other writers’ successes have made her consider including more love scenes and putting them earlier in her books. So far she has resisted that particular siren song, but she says, “I wonder constantly, if I wrote more ‘sexy’ books, would I be higher up the ladder?”

Author Sabrina Jeffries denies that there is any general pressure toward more frequent or more unusual sex scenes: “Several new lines have opened up at publishers in the past three years that cater to readers who like no sex in their books,” she says. “I think that the trend is not so much toward more sex, but toward more diversity. Publishers are finally realizing one size does not fit all — no pun intended.”

Gold agrees, pointing out that more than 70 percent of the books her site has reviewed were given sensuality ratings of merely “Warm” or less, and only 1 percent were rated as “Burning,” like Schone’s recent full-length novel, “The Lady’s Tutor.” A recent upsurge of interest in “PG-rated” romance has even prompted Gold to compile a special list of recommended books with minimal sexual content, called One Foot on the Floor — a tongue-in-cheek reference to the infamous Hays Commission standard of film censorship. (To comply with the Hays code, the makers of studio-system Hollywood movies only included love scenes in which one of the actors’ feet remained on the floor.)

Schone knows she’s bucking a disapproving tide. But, she insists, beyond the necessity for a happy-ever-after ending, there shouldn’t be limits on what is considered “suitable” in the genre: “Love cannot be contained or defined by moral conditioning,”
she wrote in her AAR essay. “Surely there is room for erotica as well as inspirational. For drama as well as lighthearted comedies. For reality as well as fantasy. Masturbation. Oral sex. Anal sex. Sex acts that are not always performed with body parts. These are great tools to advance a plot and develop character.”

“Somewhere in that last bit of commentary, she loses me,” publisher Gold confesses. “Silk scarves and feathers I can handle, but electrical devices and the insertion of foodstuffs or sex toys cross my line in the sand.” Gold isn’t the only one with concerns about dildos and anal sex as literary devices. Florida reader Lena Diaz was outraged: “If this is the future of romance novels, I’m going to go to the bookstore immediately and purchase everything on the romance shelves, before this new era of smut is unleashed!”

But it’s not “a new era,” romance veterans insist. The genre’s already been there, done that — and changed the batteries: “Bertrice Small, Rosemary Rogers and the like exploded the romance genre in the ’70s by having all kinds of explicit sex,” says Jeffries. “No bestiality, but just about everything else from rape to S/M to whatever they could throw in.” Those were the days when the term “bodice-rippers” came into vogue.

An enormous backlash followed, fueled in part by feminism, and when writers began making their heroes more heroic and less violent, “readers pounced on those books with a vengeance,” Jeffries says. “I think they had enjoyed the earlier books because they talked about sex, and that had been missing in popular literature for women, but what they really wanted was the focus on emotion and building of the relationship along with good sex. When they got that, they were ecstatic.” And that, most aficionados agree, was when the genre really took off.

In a community that prides itself on its public civility and smiley mutual enthusiasm — even if it is sometimes undertaken with secretly clenched teeth — many participants found the open anger that the sexuality issue provoked on the All About Romance board made them uncomfortable. “Talking about sex is a little like talking politics or religion,” says romance writer Michelle Jerott. “People can get pretty touchy about it.” It’s not surprising, then, that when religion entered the dispute, the heat flared exponentially.

DeeDee Wakabayashi, one of a number of conservative Christian women who were drawn to the discussion of Schone’s manifesto, recently decided to give up reading romances with sexual content, and she was blunt in her assessment of the genre: “I think romance novels are to women what pornography is to men. The books in and of themselves may not be pornography but the sex scenes can be called nothing less.”

That declaration outraged many other participants. “Calling romance ‘women’s porn’ makes it sound as though it is the female equivalent of ‘Debbie Does Dallas,’” said Gold. Mark Pottenger, a romance fan who at one point confessed that he found them more stimulating than Playboy pictures (“but I’m very verbal”), rejected Wakabayashi’s categorical assumption that any material that caused sexual arousal was pornography. “There is a vast difference in intent and focus,” he said. “Pornography focuses on sex without love and sometimes with violence or degradation. Romance focuses on love and character growth.”

Other readers agreed with him — at length and vehemently — that 10 (or even 50) pages of lovemaking in a 350-page novel were no more than the “whipped cream on the strawberries” of the main event: the story of how a man and a woman fall in love against the odds and, unlike the bed-hopping characters on TV soap operas, commit themselves to each other forever. Said reader Alison Henry: “Let all these killjoys watch the daytime talk shows — ‘I don’t know which man fathered my child/my sister slept with my husband/two pregnant mistresses’ — and I’ll stick with romances and their happy-ever-after endings.”

“Happy ever after” usually means marriage, and romance readers believe fervently in that institution — as long as they perceive it to be a partnership between equals. Wakabayashi particularly disturbed the AAR forum when she confessed that a significant element in her renunciation of the genre was her husband’s distaste for the books: “He asked me if there was explicit sex in them and exactly how explicit it was, and I told him, and he said he was not comfortable with that.”

This concession to a disapproving husband struck some participants as bizarre, an echo of the days when Victorian women allowed their husbands to “shield” them from the corrupting influence of the scandalous daily newspapers. Few are surprised, though, that some men still feel threatened by women’s interest in romances. In a highly entertaining essay, romance writer and researcher Jennifer Crusie notes that romances challenge patriarchic notions by making the heroine’s needs central: “Romance fiction was critically doomed the minute its writers said, ‘We’re going to make our central characters female, and they’re going to win,’” Crusie declares. “And then [they compounded] that sin by showing that love is a powerful force that should be taken seriously.” Her shrewd examination of the critics of the genre caused Crusie to realize why she liked romance fiction — it was “an equal opportunity debunker” of many cherished literary theories and political mythologies, both left and right. “It was not only entertaining and empowering,” she says; “it seriously annoyed a lot of stuffed shirts.”

Others reacting to Wakabayashi’s compromise with her husband pointed out that a man who is against his wife reading romances might very well be shooting himself in the foot. A 69-year-old fan once confessed to Schone that she wished erotic romances had been available when she first got married in 1948. “She said it would certainly have made the first few years of their marriage easier on her husband,” Schone said.

Research backs up the anecdotal evidence about romances’ effects on the marriage bed. Two studies cited in Dr. Patricia Love’s guide to “Hot Monogamy” suggest that women who read romance novels have about twice as much marital sex as those who don’t, and that they enjoy it more. Discussion participant “Laura Jane” admitted that married sex “ain’t red satin sheets and wild all-night sex every night,” and said that she finds romance novels help when things become too routine: “After almost 20 years together, our sex drives ebb and flow, and when it is good it is very good, but when it’s not and we’re in a rut of the same old same old, that’s where I will re-read one of my hot romances and try to schedule some time alone with hubby.”

But Stacey Helms, another conservative Christian at AAR, recoiled from that idea. “I put all my sexual eggs in the basket of my husband,” she said. “I save up and center all my sexuality on him. I do not wish to become aroused in some other way and then run to him for satisfaction.” Helms acknowledged that she also experienced a crisis of conscience about the books, and she repeatedly questioned why sexual activity had to be shown in romances at all. Wakabayashi joined her in challenging the genre’s defenders: “Why do you need the explicitness? Do you have a hard time thinking of what happens when the door closes?”

But romance authors say that imagining that scene is not the reader’s job. The whole point of their fictional enterprise is to bring the audience as fully as possible into the experience of the characters, into their joys and sorrows and emotions and sensations. “I tend not to like stories that shut the bedroom door,” says romance writer Jo Beverley, “in part because I think first sex is a very important part of a relationship, and when they come out and carry on with the story there’ll be a huge hole there of things I don’t know and don’t understand.”

“Closing the door” is unthinkable for Schone. “I simply cannot imagine writing about a romantic relationship between a man and a woman without including sexual love,” she says. It is, for her, a crucial dimension of the story, the point at which the characters are most vulnerable to each other, most expressive of themselves as human beings. What goes on behind the bedroom door is an essential part of any romantic narrative, because, she says, “I believe that sexual love between a man and a woman is the most powerful force in the universe.”

Meanwhile, back at the bookstore, it appears the prediction about Schone’s books “flying off the shelves” has come true. The out-of-print paperback edition of “Awaken My Love” is up to $26 at auction, “The Lady’s Tutor” is No. 2 on Amazon’s Romance Bestseller list, and her contribution to “Captivated” is the major reason that volume has become the fastest-selling trade romance anthology ever — at least according to reader reviews, many of which express disdain for the other writers in the volume. As one California reader put it succinctly: “Read Schone. Burn the rest.”

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Dangerous love

The murder of a romance novelist by her dashing but abusive husband has fans asking tough questions.

“There will be someone for you, my daughter,” a dying mother assures a young woman in Nancy Richards-Akers’ last novel, “So Wild A Kiss.” “A loving man to cosset and protect you …”

A self-described “chronic daydreamer,” Nancy Richards-Akers was the author of 16 romance novels, popular fantasies in which virile, perfect men — at once thrillingly tough and emotionally sensitive — made love and war with equal ease. Her eventful stories of spunky Celtic heroines and the sexy heroes who wooed and defended them always ended happily ever after.

Nancy’s own story, however, did not have a happy ending. She was shot twice in the back of the head by her abusive husband, Jeremy Ray Akers, on the night of June 5, as she sat in her red Jeep Wrangler outside her former home in an upscale area of Washington, D.C. The couple’s school-age children witnessed their mother’s murder, and 11-year-old Zeb called 911. Ninety minutes later, as park police approached him across the grassy area in front of the Vietnam Veterans Memorial, Jeremy Akers put the barrel of a shotgun in his own mouth and pulled the trigger.

The close-knit romance writers’ community was devastated by the news of Richards-Akers’ murder. It was the third such death by domestic violence among romance writers in the past three years (novelists Pamela Macaluso and Ann Wassall were also shot by their husbands in 1997 and 1996, according to the Romance Writers of America). At the “Avon Ladies” bulletin board on the Web site of Richards-Akers’ publisher, Avon Books, messages of distress about her orphaned children, calls for action against domestic violence and stunned, disbelieving grief at the loss of a beloved friend flooded in as soon as the news broke.

The grisly deaths raised inevitable questions and strong emotions among the women (and a few men) who make their living celebrating romantic love. A June 8 Washington Post article on the murder, written by Cheryl Thompson, was based almost entirely on interviews with Jeremy Akers’ friends, and seemed in some respects to be sympathetic toward him and critical of Richards-Akers. (Thompson did not respond to requests for comment, but the Post story explained that the writer’s friends and family could not be reached.) Under the headline “Jealousy Suspected in Slaying of Novelist: Friends Call Lawyer Who Killed Wife a Doting Father,” the article quoted a family friend as saying that Richards-Akers had included elements of her intense and volatile husband’s character in the warrior heroes of her books. Worse yet, Richards-Akers was purported to have found her husband’s aggressive nature appealing, at least in the earlier years of their marriage, and one friend of her husband’s indicated that Richards-Akers had only grown “tired” of him when she “didn’t need him financially” any more.

The article’s overall impression, the angry romance community felt, was that Richards-Akers had known what she was doing in marrying a brutal man, and thus she had somehow chosen her fate.

“I think what bothers me the most is that the article attempts to explain or justify his behavior,” wrote reader Tiffany Hunalec. “Violence in our culture is so common, but even worse is the attitude that somehow the woman must have done something to deserve it, or that she in some way is a catalyst that brings out her husband’s bad side.” Another furious woman wrote that the Post’s article should have been entitled “Ode to a Killer.” Roberta Stahlman, a frequent contributor at the Avon Ladies board, was particularly outraged at the suggestion that Jeremy Akers’ personality figured in her books: “To say that a man who would beat and kill his wife could possibly be a hero of a romance novel is ludicrous.”

Yet by all accounts, Richards-Akers was — on the surface, at least — an example of what’s known in romance industry jargon as the “alpha male archetype,” the type that frequently figures as the hero of romances. An environmental lawyer and former Marine who earned a Silver Star and two Purple Hearts in Vietnam, Jeremy Akers was described by friends as “brilliant” and “headstrong,” and as “a James Bond type” who had “woman after woman.” He indulged in hobbies like skiing, scuba diving, alligator hunting and gun collecting. But he evidently had a hard time controlling himself, and that’s where he departed from the romance-novel ideal.

In February Nancy Richards-Akers characterized her husband in e-mail correspondence as a “violent, possessive, terrorist control-freak.” He was, neighbors said, blunt and opinionated, a vocal man with highly conservative political views, which he often expressed aggressively, to the extent of invading others’ personal space during conversations and forcing them to step back. Police had been called to the Akers home in recent years, and Richards-Akers had finally fled for good last summer with a broken nose and two black eyes. “If I hadn’t left,” she told a friend, “my children might have witnessed my death.”

It’s true that romance novels in the ’70s and ’80s often featured men much like Jeremy as testosterone-powered, tortured outlaws or warrior kings who all too often actively abused their heroines, earning the genre the contemptuous sobriquet of “bodice-rippers.” In today’s romances, however, the male characters’ aggressive impulses tend to be more controlled, and most of the violence that remains is only undertaken in order to protect women and children. The amount of tenderness in the genre has risen, and there has been an enormous growth in the number of so-called “beta male” heroes, whose masculine strength is of the gentle, intelligent and unflinchingly honorable variety.

Still, there is no question that the more commonplace romance hero is still very much a tough guy, at least by day, and Richards-Akers’ work was appreciated by some readers for precisely this aspect. “Personally, I like the violent man in my romance fiction,” wrote romance reader Lynn Cardarelli, who calls herself a “politically incorrect workaholic.” But, she says, “Not in my life. Fiction is just that — it allows us to explore different lives, different attitudes — and it can feed our dark side. Nancy was writing about some very violent times. I don’t think any of us wants to go back to that period, but it is like taking a very fast, dangerous ride when reading one of her books. You walk on the edge, danger is present at all times, it fires the imagination — and makes for some nice dreams.”

But dreams, writers and readers of romance insist, are all that these novels are. They don’t feel that reading or writing romances increases their tolerance for violence or influences their choices of partners. Elaine Wethington, a sociologist at Cornell University who has made several studies of the $1 billion romance-novel phenomenon, says that her research indicates that the influence works the other way around: “I don’t believe romance novels influence the average reader’s choice of men, over and above the other social influences on mate choice. The novels reflect what social scientists have found when analyzing mate choice across societies: Women tend to be attracted to, and to marry, successful men (who in many cases are aggressive and tough).” Wethington notes, too, that studies of romance readers have discovered that, far from using romance fiction as a primer for their relationships, readers indulge in romances primarily as an escape from everyday life.

Robert Vaughan, a military historian and author of over 36 romances under various feminine pseudonyms, agrees with that idea, and he thinks that Richards-Akers’ writing might have helped her to cope with her difficult situation. Writers, he says, “become as much a part of their books as do the readers, and they escape into the worlds they have created. If their own personal life is in some sort of turmoil … for example, if they are living with an abusive partner … then that escape is more necessary.”

But ultimately fantasy alone was not enough for Nancy Richards-Akers, and physical escape became her only remaining option. Stella Kyung, a columnist for the Web magazine Disceptatio, sees the final months of Richards-Akers’ life as remarkably similar to a recurring theme in current romance novels, in which a woman strives to break free of restricting or damaging circumstances into a new life. In novels like Julie Garwood’s “Saving Grace,” Kyung says, heroines who have endured abusive marriages are healed by the love of a man who helps them realize that they deserve better.

Richards-Akers’ friends say that she made just that kind of transition this spring, and had found a new and restorative love with a man she described as “truly sweet and generous,” a writer of children’s poetry. But apparently it was knowledge of this relationship, combined with an impending divorce hearing, that was the catalyst for Jeremy Akers’ terminal rage. His friends said that he felt he was losing control of his family. It “drove Jeremy nuts” that his wife was with another man in the company of his children, according to Don Boswell, Jeremy’s friend and law partner. Nancy Richards-Akers’ nightmare of a year earlier — that her children would witness their mother’s murder — came true.

The romance community has already embarked on efforts to ensure that Nancy Richards-Akers’ legacy will be a positive one. Pamela Britton, a writer with rival publisher HarperCollins, is one of several authors who has suggested that the most appropriate memorial might be a book whose proceeds could be contributed to efforts aimed at stopping domestic violence. Vickie McCloud, Richards-Akers’ friend and a co-founder of the RBL Romantica! discussion board, is determined that “a voice silenced by violence is going to cause a lot of noise for the good of all women.”

Akers proclaimed on her own Web site that “All my fiction is inspired by real life,” and that “romance allows me to find the happy ending, to modify reality just enough to give it hope.” These words were part of what prompted reader Melissa Titsworth to declare Richards-Akers and the other murdered writers “valiant” women. Even as they were creating the hopeful, exhilarating literature that provided emotional respite for their readers, they were contending with the disconnects between the worlds they wrote about and their own lives. “Can you imagine,” Titsworth says, “how hard it would be to spend eight hours a day writing about love and trust when the one person in the world who you are supposed to hold most dear terrifies you? When you realize that the man you have been married to for 20 years can’t possibly love you? How hard it must be to pour your heart and soul into a manuscript about the beginning of a man and woman’s glorious life together when you are struggling with the decision of leaving your husband in order to save your own life. Nancy, Pam and Ann were, to me, the bravest of women.”

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